Tough Mudder 2

Some of you might remember I did Tough Mudder in Vermont a long, long time ago and swore I would never do one again.  I'm here to tell you that I lied.  I did it again...sans the mountain and, dare I say, it was enjoyable.  I mean, the whole time we were out there I felt really dumb for spending so much money to jump in freezing cold water, carrying really heavy logs to nowhere and purposefully running through live electrical wire.  But afterwards, I felt okay with myself.

"This water is freezing...literally.  Why am I doing this?"

"This is so stupid.  Why did I pay for this?"

"So we're supposed to carry this log around a loop and put it back where we found it?  Ummmm, okay."

Interested in running a Tough Mudder?  My best advice is for after the run.  Understand there will be hoses for you to wash the mud off your body but these are not there for you to shower. I got stuck behind a girl who brought her entire bathroom with her and took over 20 minutes.  Don't do that.  Someone behind you might have a 2.5 hour drive and care more about getting on the road than making sure your hair is properly conditioned after your mud run. 

My first run post-Ada

Your first run after a long break can be a great feeling.  Since running walking plodding through the Spring Chicago Half Marathon in May 2014, I haven't done much of anything (except, you know, have a baby).  Last month, I started doing Jillian Michael's "Beginner Shred"  which has been a great maternity-leave workout .  But it's nothing like actually hitting the pavement.  Now that I am back to work (shed single tear here), the one silver lining is that I can take a break and run during the day.

The other day, the weather was perfect and the timing was right.  I decided that it was the day to lace up my running shoes and hit the first mile of my 2015 running goal (which has yet to be determined).  I was so excited about getting outside that I decided to take Sota with me.  Between the baby and the weather, she has missed out on quite a few walks and was eager to join me.

In all my excitement, however, I failed to realize the challenges I was up against.

Challenge #1:  Sidewalks
I live in Southern Indiana and last week we got around 8 inches of snow.  I will admit, for this area, 8 inches is a lot.  I don't mind that it took a day or two to get the roads plowed.  I don't have kids in school, so school closings didn't affect me at all.  I do mind that only about 3 people on my entire street shoveled their sidewalks.  FYI, when it snows you are required to shovel the sidewalk in front of your house.  Yes, it is inconvenient.  But so is having to jump over ice banks because your neighbor is too lazy to go outside and shovel for 30 minutes.

Do I sound harsh?  I'm sorry.  But let me put this into perspective for you...in February, Boston was hit with one of its worst blizzards in history.  People were jumping off their second-story roof to get to their front door. Right after digging themselves out of their homes, THEY SHOVELED THEIR SIDEWALKS.  Snow banks might be over their heads, but Bostonian's walks are clearer than ours.  Doesn't this seem wrong to you?

Boston sidewalks after blizzard.

Challenge #2:  Sota
So, I mentioned Sota has missed some walks the past few months.  I recognize that and take full responsibility.  What I failed to remember was that every yard in the neighborhood is actually hers.  Not everyone respects her territory as much as I do, so it's important for her to reclaim her land after long absences.  This means lots of stopping.  With absolutely no notice.

You would think after 9 years of having this beast, I would know better. I should have named her Muttley.

Despite my neighbors and my dog being against me, I had a pretty decent run.  To celebrate, I ate four cupcakes and a bag Doritos.  Job well done, Allison.

A Manual for Visiting a Family with a New Baby

New babies are wonderful things.  They are cute and cuddly, so it's fair that you will want to see and hold the new baby as early as possible.  Some people get more leeway than others (like grandparents).  But no matter who you are, there are rules that you should abide by so your visit creates the least amount of stress for the new parents as possible:

• Wait for the new parents' permission to visit AFTER the baby is born.  Do not spend the months leading up to the birth asking when you can see the baby.  Unless you live really far away where your visit hinges on the purchase of plane tickets, leave the expectant parents alone and wait until they invite you over.  It may be less convenient for you, but they have other things to think about besides your schedule.  

• If the new family offers to cook a meal, the proper response should be "why don't we stop somewhere on the way over and grab food so you don't have to cook?"  If stopping for food is not an option, the next appropriate response should be "whatever is easiest."  If your host offers 3 menu options, don't say "all of it."  Most new parents stock their kitchen so they can limit the number of errands they have to run in the first few weeks of baby's arrival.  Asking them to cook a feast for you depletes their inventory and destroys their kitchen.

• Clean up after yourself.  If eating was part of your visit, offer to clean up the kitchen.  Rinse dishes, or at the very least take your dirty dishes to the sink.  New parents are not hosting you.  They are doing you a favor by letting you into their home to meet their baby. Offer to take the trash out when you leave.  

• Whether it is the family's first or fiftieth baby, try to be productive while you are in their home.  Even if a new mom has done it all before, giving birth is a lot of work and new babies are exhausting.  Having visitors come over only adds to the stress.  Try to provide food or help outside of just holding the baby. 

• Limit your stay.  Some family members will need to travel to visit the baby and will want to stay longer to make their trip worth it.  However, if you are not a grandparent, a single visit should not last longer than 4 hours.  If your visit is approaching the length of a work day, it's too long.  Even at work, we are all entitled to a break.  If you have traveled to visit, leave the house for a couple of hours and come back.  If you are staying overnight, try to find something to do to get yourself out of the house for a bit so the family can relax for a few minutes.  If you are local, your visits should be even shorter as you will likely see the baby more often.

• Most new mothers know you are coming over to hold her baby.  Don't make the first thing out of your mouth "can I hold him/her?".  There's probably no need.  

• A lot of new mothers will probably feel weird asking for her baby back.  Make it easier on her by offering if you've held the baby for more than 30 minutes.  If the mother does ask for her baby back, hand the child over.  Comments such as "you get to hold him/her all the time" are not appropriate.  Parents (especially moms) with new babies should be holding their babies all the time.

• Don't order the mom to rest while you are in her house.  If a new mom looks like she needs rest, you should probably leave.  It will be easier for her to relax if she doesn't feel like a hostess.

• If you know someone else is planning to visit the same weekend, schedule another day to come.  Don't make new parents host multiple days in a row.

• Finally - and this is a big one here - never, under any circumstances, suggest that the new parents should be well-rested because it seems like their new baby sleeps a lot.  First, you just met the baby and have no idea what he is like every day.  Holding my child for 20 minutes while he is asleep does not make you an expert.  Second, newborns need to eat every 3 hours.  So even if a baby sleeps every minute of the day that he is not eating, the mom is still only sleeping for 3 hours at a time.  Most babies (at least both of mine) wanted to be held while they were sleeping.  Even if you can fall asleep with a baby in your arms, it's not going to be good sleep.  And you will never be well-rested if you haven't slept longer than 3 hours at a time for 2 months straight.  

Having a new baby in the family is exciting, but exhausting.  Try to be respectful when you visit a new parent's home.  Even if they seem fine and feeling up for company, always proceed with the understanding that they are running on little sleep and are not operating at 100%.